How do you not let one hard moment make you doubt everything?

Not long ago, Becky, one of our Bright Morning coaches and presenters, was reflecting on a pattern we see often in our work: the emotional weight we carry when a coaching conversation, or even an entire relationship, doesn’t go the way we hoped.

She described a moment when a member she was coaching shared just how much she had poured into a client—bringing her full presence, her values-based tools, and her best intentions. And still, the conversation had felt…flat.

The coach was left wondering:
What do I do with that? Did I fail? Am I a bad coach?

That’s a question so many of us carry.

And here’s the invitation I’d offer:

Let the one be the one.

If it’s a pattern, look for the learning. But if it’s just one person, one conversation, one moment—don’t let it take up more space than it deserves.

Because when we over-index on the hard moments we lose sight of everything else.

And if you truly showed up with presence, with intention, with the tools you had at the time—then honor that.

You did what you could. You grew in the process. And you’ll keep growing.

So if you’ve had a coaching moment that’s lingering, take a breath. Ask yourself: Is this a trend, or is this just one piece of data?

And then, let it be what it is.

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